Why Modern Life is Disconnecting Us from Caring Our Parents

Introduction: The Growing Disconnect

As I speak to people worldwide, I hear the same thing repeatedly: we are losing touch with Caring for our parents. Even scholars emphasize this concern. There is a growing disconnection between children and parents, and it’s becoming an issue that’s hard to ignore.

We are all busy—work, responsibilities, and personal demands constantly pull us in different directions. But the question remains: what could be more important than our parents? In Islam, caring for them is more than a responsibility; it’s a commandment from Allah Almighty. Yet, this sacred duty seems to be slipping away in modern times.

The Blessings of Caring for Our Parents

I’ve been caring for my grandparents, who are like my parents since I was 10 years old. They raised me, and now that my grandmother is in her late 80s, I continue to care for her. Alhamdulillah, I’ve seen countless blessings come from this responsibility.

• Yes, it’s tough.
• Yes, I’ve had to sacrifice my youth, career, and many personal pursuits.
• But every hardship is worth it.

I always remind myself of the hadith: Hazrat Mu’awiyah ibn Jahima (RA) reported: Jahima came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah (SWT), I want to go out and fight (in Jihad) and I have come to ask your advice.” The Prophet (SAW) said, “Do you have a mother?” He said yes. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet.” [Sunan al-Nasā’ī 3104]

• This gives me the strength to continue serving my grandmother, even in her old age.

Personal Reflection

I understand that not everyone has the same experience. But I truly can’t fathom why many people struggle to understand the importance of this sacred virtue. Allah Almighty has commanded us to honor and care for our parents, especially in their old age. It’s not just a suggestion; it’s a divine obligation that comes with immense rewards.

If you want to learn more about the responsibilities of parents click on the link,

• The Art of Parenting in Islam – Nurturing Young Souls
• Guiding Light: The Role of Fathers in Islamic Teachings
• Islamic Parenting Tips: Raising Children in the Light of Islam

Islamic Teachings on Caring for Parents

In the Quran, Allah Almighty reminds us again and again of the importance of treating our parents with kindness and respect. One of the most powerful verses states:

This verse highlights the sacrifices our parents made for us. It also reminds us of the gratitude we owe them—and, ultimately, Allah (SWT).

The Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) Guidance

Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also emphasized the significance of honoring parents. He (SAW) said:

• “The pleasure of Allah Almighty lies in the pleasure of the parent, and the displeasure of Allah lies in the displeasure of the parent” (Tirmidhi 1899)

In this hadith, the Prophet (SAW) clearly links our relationship with our parents to our relationship with Allah Almighty. If we want to earn Allah’s pleasure, we must first seek the pleasure of our parents.

The Crisis of Modern Life

In today’s world, many of us are too busy. The demands of work, education, and social obligations seem endless. However, this modern lifestyle can come at a cost. As we pursue career success or personal goals, we often neglect our parents.

But what are we truly gaining if we lose the connection with the people who raised us?

Key Issues That Lead to Disconnect:

• Over-reliance on technology: We text instead of calling or visiting.
• Work and career pressures: We prioritize promotions over family time.
• Social distractions: Friends and hobbies take up the free time we could spend with our parents.

It’s important to recognize this trend before it’s too late. When our parents are no longer with us, we may regret the time we didn’t spend with them.

How to Reconnect with Our Parents

We can reverse this disconnect by making small, intentional changes in our daily lives. Here are a few practical steps:

1. Call or visit regularly.
2. Even a five-minute conversation can strengthen your bond.
3. Prioritize family time.
4. Schedule time each week to spend with your parents. Be present with them.
5. Seek their advice.
6. Involving your parents in decision-making shows respect and makes them feel valued.
7. Make dua for them.
8. The Quran teaches us to pray for our parents: “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” (Surah Al-Isra 17:24)
9. Take on caregiving roles if needed.
10. If your parents are older or in poor health, assist them in their daily needs, remembering the rewards of this service.

Conclusion: The Rewards of Honoring and Caring for Our Parents

Caring for our parents is one of the most rewarding acts in Islam. It is not just about fulfilling a duty; it’s about living up to the values Allah (SWT) has commanded us to follow. By reconnecting with our parents and honoring them, we earn Allah Almighty’s pleasure and blessings in both this life and the hereafter.

Remember the words of the Quran:

InshAllah, let us make an effort to reconnect, honor, and care for our parents, fulfilling the divine command that brings us closer to Allah Almighty.